5 Common Causes of Relapse and Preventive Strategies
Although there are countless reasons why someone might relapse, here we cover a few common causes and discuss how to avoid these potential pitfalls.
Not Going to Meetings
For an alcoholic or addict who is engaged in a 12-step recovery process, backing away from regular, consistent meeting attendance is the equivalent of a patient who stops taking their medicine. Not everyone who stops going to meetings relapses, but most people with contented, long-term sobriety find this component vital to our sanity and happiness. Meetings are where one can fuel the tank become re-energized, and learn, develop, and practice the tools needed for sober living. They offer a community of like-minded individuals, who give us support, inspiration, and encouragement. Moreover, this regular contact keeps us accountable: if youโre straying from the path, attending a meeting will probably give you a nudge in the right direction.
Regular contact with a sober fellowship can be a crucial way to ensure that one isnโt becoming isolated and offers us a place to be revitalized by familiar, compassionate faces. Whatโs more, the chances are, if we stopped going to meetings, we would no longer be afforded ample opportunities to practice the 12th step: carrying the message to those who are still suffering. As the AA Big Book and other 12-step literature make abundantly clear, helping others is a critical component to staying sober ourselves.
Not Doing the Work
Although meeting attendance is the lifeblood of sobriety for many of us, meetings alone are often insufficient to give us a deeper sense of ease and peace in our sobriety. While 12-step fellowships can offer community, friendship, and support, those things alone are generally not enough to keep us sober. Although meetings might give us some relief, addressing the causes and conditions of our alcoholism or addiction gives us true freedom.
Most people considering going into recovery struggle to imagine a life sober, especially one that is happy, comfortable, and full. The deep work of the 12 steps is what helps us get free of the thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes that made life so difficult in the first place. Working the 12 steps is where the real transformation happens. And as they say, โIf nothing changes, nothing changes.โ
Triggering Your Allergy
The central explanation of alcoholism and drug addiction in Alcoholics and Narcotics Anonymous literature suggests that we have an allergy to alcohol or drugs, and no matter the amount we take, it sets off a crushing craving that is impossible to overcome with willpower alone. Once we trigger this response, weโre as good as gone.
For example, someone who comes into AA to treat their alcoholism and who begins using cannabis or sedatives to manage their anxiety may unknowingly be triggering their allergy and inciting a monstrous craving they have no hope of battling, ultimately leading them to relapse on alcohol, or their drug of choice. Of course, taking vital prescription medication under the advice and guidance of a doctor well-versed in addiction and aware of your history generally does not apply in this scenario.
Acting out in other areas
So what about people who relapsed despite going to meetings, working the steps, and not taking other substances? Collective experience shows that in these cases, often the person might not have been โpracticing the principles in all of their affairsโ (part of the 12th step).
People who continue to steal, lie, or cheatโor otherwise live in ways that look a lot like the behavior of a practicing alcoholic or addictโseem to often get so uncomfortable in their skin that they need some relief, which eventually takes the form of a drink or drug. In recovery, we donโt practice the principles just because we suddenly got โnice,โ but rather because our lives depend on it.
Not Ready Yet
Still others come into treatment or a 12-step fellowship curious, in disarray, and facing some ugly consequences, but who are not yet ready to stop. In these cases, relapse often seems imminent. This is generally because the individual is not willing to surrender their old life, seek help, and take the steps necessary to achieve long-term sobriety.
Whatever the situation, relapse does not need to be a part of your story. The experience of millions suggests that if you are willing to change, seek help, and follow some basic guidance, you donโt have to drink or use anymore.
Get in touch today if you are ready to stop and stay stopped!